Thursday, April 19, 2012

Why They're Not Talking...

I've gotten a lot of emails lately from readers asking me about my thoughts on why Fred Murray, Liz Drewniak, Sara Alfieri, etc. aren't speaking to me. For Liz and Sara and other friends, I think the answer is probably that they wish for people to remember Maura in a positive light and were afraid that this book would uncover some of the large mistakes she made (credit card fraud, affairs, etc.) before her disappearance. I get that. And to a point respect it. Though, I think in cases like this the more info that is shared the easier it is to solve. And now, after all, the cat is out of the bag. Besides, I don't think anyone believes Maura was a "bad" person, even after all we've learned. She was flawed. Just like all of us. But perhaps one of those flaws contributed to what happened to her.

There is another possibility for the silence. There are some people who believe that a person cannot be mentioned in a book or newspaper if the reporter has not spoken to them directly. I've met career politicians who believe this as well. But it's not true. Fred, Liz, Sara, and others who have not replied will, of course, be in the book. Their background, statements, and quotes have been provided through records and interviews with those who know them. But my goal here is to tell the most complete story and to provide the most comprehensive look at this case in the hope that it may shed light on Maura's fate.

And for that, I hope to hear from them before publication.

31 comments:

  1. James, do you think its also possible, at least in the friends' cases, that they have simply moved on with their lives. Not so much they want to protect Maura's reputation with outsiders, but Maura's reputation among themselves by burying unpleasantness in the past? By now, Maura is long gone and they probably only remember her in the best light?

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    1. If they moved on, why would they participate in the extensive "Disappeared" documentary in 2010 that they knew would be shown in reruns all over the world for years to come? So suddenly after they participated in 2010 they just gave up and moved on after 6 years of looking? I don't think so.

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  2. if i had a missing child, who was never found--and i had lawsuits filed against the state where she went missing, and i was as frustrated with the investigation as fred is, i dont think i would want a book about my daughter published as well...

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  3. The second half of this post sounds directed more towards the 3 people mentioned.

    I also want to point out, another big, probable reason why the friends and ex boyfriend may not be talking.. is because Fred had told them a few years ago to 'carry on with your lives.' I do believe Fred knows this may never be solved..he knows her friends and ex boyfriend are still young, and I'm sure Fred wants them to not sulk around and dwell on the past.

    In my own opinion, Fred seems to have single handed taken this on by himself. The rest seem to have somewhat moved on, but I can tell from watching interviews, and reading articles by Fred that he hasn't..and rightfully so, it was his daughter after all, and like he said he 'owes it to his daughter'.

    Fred may be stubborn, or he may have a short temper..and some of you have said 'controlling' but he has a heart and his perseverance is extremely admirable.

    In my opinion, the more posts you make about this, the more you're probably going to upset the family and friends. If they look at this.

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    1. Well said. Thanks for posting your thoughts.

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    2. "Move on with your lives because being interviewed for a book that will introduce many thousands to my daughter's case is something that is not in her best interests."

      Is this what your imagination suggests is along the lines of what has been said by Fred to her friends?


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  4. First, I want to thank you very much for publishing my thoughts directed at Fred Murray in regards to Maura and my own daughter. It was very kind of you. Second, I hope you will hear from the Murray's for a lot of reasons and one of them is the fact that by speaking to you they will be doing the RIGHT thing. It is only fair to her. She would want to be found and one way or another they owe to her....wether they want to admit it or not....

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  5. Many years ago I lost two friends when a ferryboat sank in the Baltic Sea. A while afterwards somebody wrote a book about the accident mentioning details about my friends. He got the details all wrong. I HATED the book only because of that. I felt the author lacked respect for my friends, not properly checking the facts and how hard could it be to get it right when the book wasn't very thick at all? So I'm thinking that it isn't strange for Maura's friends and relatives to not want a book about her disappearance. I understand that she is holy to them and that they don't want strangers to speculate around who she was. But of course, I am not them and they might have other reasons.

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  6. If there was going to be a book coming out about my missing daughter (especially one that will possibly end up being "the" definitive version), I would want to make damn sure the author had all the facts straight. But that's just me.

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    1. Exactly what I've been thinking, Brenda. The family and friends can (and will) squawk about James's theories and conclusions, but that's okay because those are opinions, but if he gets any of the facts wrong, while that will be unfortunate, oh well, they should have spoken up when they had the chance.

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    2. I'm with you on this one Brenda; however, what if the family and friends are looking to make money off of this by bringing a lawsuit against James once he publishes the book?

      If he unknowingly publishes what he believes to be facts and they turn out to be incorrect some people might try and bring libel charges against him for their own benefit.

      I cannot think of another reason why they wouldn't speak with him. Can you?

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    3. Another reason they're not talking could be that they all know what actually happened and know that Maura wants privacy about her new life. Perhaps they are in touch with her. That would be my guess.

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  7. The subject of Fred seems to be a hot topic amongst the Maura Murray followers. I still and always believe he knew why Maura was in New Hampshire that night. In the ID missing show, he constantly looks down and makes bizarre statements. He is not convincing at all when he says "I have no idea why Maura was in New Hampshire, I'd be guessing the same as anyone". He has some guilt and remorse in his body language. Also when he tells the camera man that "I wish Maura would have gone straight, she doesn't know this area". Lie. It's been proven they went up there annually. Lies = deciet. I know it's hard to believe a father would harm their child. I hope he didn't. But he knew she was up there. He told her to put the rag in the muffler. He may put on a good spin in front of the cameras, but notice he wont talk with James when he'll be asked the tough questions.

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    1. Just because you can tell someone is lying, doesn't mean you know the truth.

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    2. Fred meant Maura's approach from UMass Amherst through Vermont to NH. Yes, Maura knew the Bartlett area, but not Haverhill and Woodsville area. You must have misunderstood him.

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  8. Herm, it's pretty extreme to be criticising a grieving father in a public forum when no evidence points that way. The fact that someone reacts strangely or their demeanour doesn't appear to the average person to be what it "should" be means nothing. In fact, if Fred was guilty - so much of his behaviour would make no sense - why would he be so insistent on having Maura investigated as a missing person and having publicity drawn to the case? Without evidence, it's incredibly cruel to the family to be pointing fingers like that - and it's extremely sensationalist.

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  9. Sorry Herm, but there are two distinct areas of rt 112. East of Lincoln NH and west of Lincoln NH. Not many people are as familiar with west of Linoln as they are of east. East is where all the tourist activities are such as loon Mountain and the kancamungus HWY (ext of Rt 112)Maura was familiar with East of Lincoln NH as she camped on the kancamungus Hwy at Jigger Johnson as well as hiked some of the mountains in that area. I wish more people would know the facts before they call someone a liar.

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    1. point taken. But, Fred has lied. Look at his police statement.

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  10. I've read this blog for a long time but never commented. My thoughts about what happened to Maura have gone back and forth. However, my question is, if Fred Murray refused to talk with police for so long and refuses to speak with James, why did he do the Investigation Discovery episode?

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  11. Any word in regards to the Prue's being questioned.

    Could Maura have been disappeared into the witness protection program?

    There is an id "disappeared" story about a family who disappeared mysteriously and this writer makes a case if you connect the dots they are in wp. (Keepthesearchalive on wordpress.) Most of the shows make people look like theyre dead.

    In this case its hard to rule out anything.
    Walkaway for any reason.
    Foul play.
    Suicide.
    Accident.

    I dont think there is enough evidence to disclude any.

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  12. I think the family should be left alone. They have to deal with the fact that their daughter is missing. How can one judge the family because they don't want to speak to someone making a book about it? It is their business. My heart breaks for the family and friends who are missing their daughter and friend. It's such a tragedy. I think it is great that you want to help, but I also think the families wishes should be respected.

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  13. Forgive me for asking if this has already been clarified. I'm just curious as to where Maura's mother is in all of this. I have not heard much about her other than she was injured or recovering from surgery at the time Maura vanished.

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    1. I believe she passed away....

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  14. I think the family is very fortunate that Maura's case has garnered so much media and public attention, as many families with missing loved ones are never given the same courtesy and often find themselves alone in trying to find their missing loved one.

    I am sure that they do not want any mistakes Maura may have made in her life to be highlighted but sometimes that can lead to the truth. I cannot speak for the family but if it were my loved one, I would be contacting everyone trying to get the truth as I saw it conveyed accurately as such. I know families are reluctant to tell law enforcement everything off the bat because when you mention things like mental illness, you often find that law enforcement closes off certain avenues of investigation, which in the long run can hamper the investigation and leave you with missing evidence and information. Eight years down the road, is it? Not much to lose other than to just put it all out there.

    I hope some of the profits from this book go to helping the family further their efforts.

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  15. I believe she was drunk when she crashed both her car in New Hampshire and her fathers. She was avoiding police after her crash in NH and I think got into a car after the school bus driver offered to call the police for her. Since she couldn't use her cell phone she got in car with stranger because she was too afraid to get a DUI. Whoever picked her up killed her and she called her boyfriend trying to get through to him. OR she ran away after the crash and died in the elements. Which I find extremely unlikely... i think someone picked her up after her crash and did harm to the poor girl... horrible bad luck... unreal. Really hope I am completely wrong.

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  16. I didn't know Maura on a personal level, but looking at almost every photo I have seen of her she is always wearing black or very dark colored clothing. One of her favorite possessions was the book 'Not Without Peril'. I have not read this book personally, but from what I read in the synopsis, it's about hikers who have set out to hike the White Mountains but were met with a very ill fate. I also remember reading an interview which Sharon Rausch said that Maura would drink coffee with alcohol in it each morning when she was visiting. I almost wonder if her father didn't recognize all the warning signs of his depressed daughter at the time, but now may be in denial. From documents that you have scanned and posted online, it sounds like her father may not have been the most responsible person with alcohol either. Maybe her father was fighting his own demons prior to his daughter disappearing. No one is perfect. Maybe Maura was too young to realize that no one is perfect, perhaps she was too hard on herself, maybe she gave up too easily after a string of bad luck. (divorced parents, leaving West Point, possibly her boyfriend had cheated on her, not being able to leave campus/go anywhere because of her unreliable vehicle).

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  17. Has Fred Murray ever done a polygraph test?

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  18. I was watching ID (Investigation Discovery) "Disappeared" and saw Maura's case. I happened to google to see if there were any updates regarding her case and came across this blog. I hope and pray that her family and friends is given some kind of closer and that she is found. I cannot imagine the heartache that they go through everyday she is still missing. Thank you for still searching and bringing forth ALL the details.

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  19. You are a gossip monger who gets a thrill out of exposing Maura Murray's mistakes in life. You have also implied that Fred Murray is a liar who knows where his daughter is, or that he was somehow involved or complicit in her disappearance. No wonder he won't talk to you!

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  20. Hi, thank you very much for help. I am going to test that in the near future. Cheers


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