How horrible! That picture brought chills up my spine! Why did you choose to out him today James? Seems like you throw us out a tidbit every once in awhile!
So sorry for your family, James. It is brave of you to confront him and your family to tell their stories to each other! I hope some justice can come to your family.
I read the blog post about your grandfather. I just wanted to tell you I'm sorry you and your family has suffered for many years from this cruel man. I hope he is turned in, and I hope all of you get the peace of mind you all deserve. I also wanted to point out that this is a great example that no one's family is perfect, not yours...and not Maura's.
Indeed. I'm also sorry for what your family has been through, and I agree that this story has a few lessons for the Maura Murray Mystery: --Sick people don't commit crimes in isolation. If there is one, there will be many. This, to me, is the biggest indication that Maura was *not* abducted by a random sicko. "Random sickos," like your grandfather, create patterns; they don't act just once, as in the case of Maura's disappearance.
--Personal dysfunctions, family problems, and the associated cover-ups are EVERYWHERE! They are much, much more common than random boogeyman prowling the night for random young women. Hence, I think Maura's disappearance was far more likely to be the result of a personal dysfunction, interpersonal issue, family drama, accident, and/or the cover-up for any of the above.
For more evidence regarding my point here, I would encourage everyone to read "Foreign Faction" by James Kolar (about the JonBenet Ramsey case.) It suggests very compellingly that an intruder was NOT responsible for JonBenet's death, and makes an impeccable case that the cause was an aggravated accident by a family member, which was subsequently covered up by the family. There are some *very*, and I mean *very* telling similarities between the Ramseys' behavior in the wake of JonBenet's death and Fred Murray's behavior in this case. Long story short, it didn't turn out to be a boogey-stranger in JonBenet's case--and it probably wasn't in Maura's, either.
Sorry to hear about your grandfather. My grandfather was also a "serial rapist". He raped my mother and my uncle until they both ran away. And naturally, he was an alcoholic. Incest is extremely common in alcoholic homes. There's a reason why they call alcohol "spirits". Both my mother and grandfather were given a lie detector test by the police when my mother turned him in. Both passed. Many alcoholics molest during a "blackout" which is why they have no memory of what they've done. Lucky for me, my grandfather died from alcoholism a year before I was born.
The twenty year statute of limitations had to be put in by someone with no knowledge of what victims of sexual abuse endure and suffer with. It is a life sentence of shame, low self esteem and every dysfunctional trait known to man. Outing this 'animal' is exactly what you should have done and I respect you for doing it. The sooner people realize that all families are dysfunctional (just dig deep enough), the sooner victims can take some of the blame off of themselves and place it where it belongs. By bringing these things to light you are helping so many people realize they are not alone, not weird and certainly did not deserve it.
How horrible! That picture brought chills up my spine! Why did you choose to out him today James? Seems like you throw us out a tidbit every once in awhile!
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your family, James. It is brave of you to confront him and your family to tell their stories to each other! I hope some justice can come to your family.
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ReplyDeleteI read the blog post about your grandfather. I just wanted to tell you I'm sorry you and your family has suffered for many years from this cruel man. I hope he is turned in, and I hope all of you get the peace of mind you all deserve. I also wanted to point out that this is a great example that no one's family is perfect, not yours...and not Maura's.
ReplyDeleteIndeed. I'm also sorry for what your family has been through, and I agree that this story has a few lessons for the Maura Murray Mystery:
Delete--Sick people don't commit crimes in isolation. If there is one, there will be many. This, to me, is the biggest indication that Maura was *not* abducted by a random sicko. "Random sickos," like your grandfather, create patterns; they don't act just once, as in the case of Maura's disappearance.
--Personal dysfunctions, family problems, and the associated cover-ups are EVERYWHERE! They are much, much more common than random boogeyman prowling the night for random young women. Hence, I think Maura's disappearance was far more likely to be the result of a personal dysfunction, interpersonal issue, family drama, accident, and/or the cover-up for any of the above.
For more evidence regarding my point here, I would encourage everyone to read "Foreign Faction" by James Kolar (about the JonBenet Ramsey case.) It suggests very compellingly that an intruder was NOT responsible for JonBenet's death, and makes an impeccable case that the cause was an aggravated accident by a family member, which was subsequently covered up by the family. There are some *very*, and I mean *very* telling similarities between the Ramseys' behavior in the wake of JonBenet's death and Fred Murray's behavior in this case. Long story short, it didn't turn out to be a boogey-stranger in JonBenet's case--and it probably wasn't in Maura's, either.
SAH: I recently read that book, and I can totally see where you're coming from.
DeleteWell said.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear about your grandfather. My grandfather was also a "serial rapist". He raped my mother and my uncle until they both ran away. And naturally, he was an alcoholic. Incest is extremely common in alcoholic homes. There's a reason why they call alcohol "spirits". Both my mother and grandfather were given a lie detector test by the police when my mother turned him in. Both passed. Many alcoholics molest during a "blackout" which is why they have no memory of what they've done. Lucky for me, my grandfather died from alcoholism a year before I was born.
ReplyDeleteThe twenty year statute of limitations had to be put in by someone with no knowledge of what victims of sexual abuse endure and suffer with. It is a life sentence of shame, low self esteem and every dysfunctional trait known to man. Outing this 'animal' is exactly what you should have done and I respect you for doing it. The sooner people realize that all families are dysfunctional (just dig deep enough), the sooner victims can take some of the blame off of themselves and place it where it belongs.
ReplyDeleteBy bringing these things to light you are helping so many people realize they are not alone, not weird and certainly did not deserve it.